Making Time for Yourself When You are Caring for a Loved One
Few things in life can be as emotionally and physically taxing as caring for a loved one, or caregiving. Caregiving is a broad term that includes a lot of different situations. It can be as simple as checking in on an older neighbor or as challenging as caring for a loved one after a sudden diagnosis, illness or medical condition.
Caregiving can also include people that are caring for aging parents and children at the same time. These individuals are a part of the sandwich generation.
Regardless of your experience, most caregivers struggle with making time for themselves. When your to do list is never ending, it can feel selfish to take a few minutes for yourself. However, making time for yourself is one of the most important things you can do as a caregiver.
According to the National Library of Medicine, caregivers who experienced high strain were at risk for significant health issues compared to caregivers with less strain.
If you feel burned out and struggle to find time for yourself, you’re not alone. Here are three ways to make time for yourself as a caregiver.
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It may not be possible to go on vacation or kick up your feet for an entire weekend, but you can still find time to rest in your day. If you’re overwhelmed, try mindfulness techniques like reflection or deep breathing. Need a little bit of fun? Set aside time for a favorite hobby or make plans to see an old friend.
It may feel difficult, but making time for movement can have a big impact on your mood, mental health and physical well-being. Take 10-15 minutes to go for a walk, stretch or do some low-impact exercises.
Taking care of a loved one can feel stressful and isolating at times. By joining a local or online support group, you can share insight, ask questions and get advice from people dealing with the same challenges you are. You can find support groups at Genesis at the link below.
Find all Genesis support groups here.
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Are you a member of the sandwich generation?
Having multiple generations in your family is wonderful. You enjoy the youthful exuberance of your children and value the wisdom and experience of your parents. And, sometimes, best of all, your grandchildren are added to the mix, creating a beautiful mosaic in your life.
It’s all good, until you realize you have become a caregiver for multiple generations, with all the stress and tension it can cause. Sometimes it hits us quickly – life changes and now your parent needs your help, while you’re still raising your children. There’s a name for this – it’s called the Sandwich Generation.
How do you know when helping your father, or mother or in-law becomes more than a once-in-a-while thing – making you a full-fledged member of the Sandwich Generation? Take this quiz to help you figure it out.
While you’re caring for multiple generations in your family:
Do you have enough time to pay attention to your health?
Are you eating healthy most of the time?
Do you make it to your own doctors’ appointments?
Do you find time to exercise a few times a week?
Is your stress level manageable?
Are you feeling accomplished and fulfilled most of the time?
Do you have enough hours in the day to get everything done?
Do you sleep well and wake up feeling refreshed?
Are you patient with your loved ones when they need something from you?
Do you feel you are appreciated by your loved ones?
If you answered no to any of these questions, it’s likely you are a member of the Sandwich Generation and need to find ways to take care of yourself while you care for others. Remember the airplane safety message: Put your own mask on first before assisting others. If you’re not healthy and rested, you won’t be able to take care of your loved ones.
What can you do? Eat right, get regular exercise, and make sure you get plenty of sleep. Ask for help. If you have siblings, work with them to share the load. Hire outside help if needed and if you’re able. Communication is also key – schedule family meetings to give everyone a chance to express their feelings and concerns.
Take a few moments each day to “stop and smell the roses.” Being a member of the Sandwich Generation can be stressful and taxing, but it also can bring you and your loved ones closer. You will all be grateful for the time you have together.
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Explain that to me
We should be actively involved in our doctor’s appointment to help make decisions about our health and the best, most cost-effective treatment. But sometimes that’s easier said than done because some medical terms can be confusing, and it’s hard to recall what we don’t understand.
Studies show 40-80% of medical information we hear our provider tell us is forgotten immediately and almost half the information that is remembered is incorrect. Take notes while you are with your provider.
If you don’t understand, don’t be shy – keep asking questions. It’s your body, after all. It’s easy to forget what you want to ask once you’re at the doctor’s office, so be sure and bring a list of questions that includes any medications or supplements that you’re taking.
It’s easier to recall the diagnosis than the treatment. Ask for simple, specific instructions about the treatment plan so they can be recalled and followed.
If you understand your diagnosis and the treatment plan, and follow it, you’ll be more satisfied with your healthcare.
If you have questions or concerns about your diagnosis or treatment once you’re home, contact your doctor.
Genesis HealthCare System’s Health and Wellness content conveniently provides accurate and helpful information. Your health history and current health may impact suggestions provided through our Health and Wellness content. Although we hope this information is helpful, it is not a substitute for your doctor's medical advice. Before making any significant changes, please consult your doctor.
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